Over the years of working with a number of courageous women who chose adoption, a common question surfaced for those women who had other children they were parenting..How would I ever be able to explain to my children why I placed one child and not another?? click on the link below from Pact, An Adoption Alliance to read one woman’s struggle and eventual answer to this common question…
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As an adult adoptee as well as an adoptive mom, this article is invaluable to me. From the adoptee perspective, it gives me validation about the questions I have in my mind and the feelings I have about my birthmother. Sadly, I didn’t get to meet my birthmom, but I have some of her journals and poetry she wrote about me. Reading about her pregnancy is the greatest gift I could ask for. It confirms the connection we will always have. From the adoptive mom perspective, it prepares me in handling future conversations with my now 6 year old son. His birthmom has 4 other children and I know the question will come one day about why she kept them and not him. It is my hope that together she and I will give my son the confidence and comfort he needs in understanding his story. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Jackie for your comment..as an adult adoptee and adoptive mom your perspective is so valuable, you have multiple views of this issue..so many wonderful women who have placed live with shame and unspoken pain hopefully this article will give them hope and inspiration that healing and forgiveness can occur and open adoption can be the vehicle for this healing..