A Birth Father’s Tale

 

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It is so rare that we honestly hear from birth fathers about their experience of placing a child for adoption…I have been privileged to meet many wonderful men through the years who have come forward to plan for their child’s future by making an adoption plan. But sadly, this is not always the case and many fathers are not involved in the adoption planning for their child. Historically, many birth fathers were shut out of the process or felt they had no choice or say in the adoption planning of their child…It was refreshing to find this YouTube video of Andrew Ward, a writer and birth father, speaking about his life long journey of making sense of the adoption of his infant son…He speaks candidly and clearly dispels the myth about birth fathers not caring about their child placed for adoption…click the link below to hear Andrew’s story

A Birth Father’s Tale

 

Unplanned Pregnancy: Exploring Your Options

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I found this step by step guidebook to help a woman confronted with an unplanned pregnancy explore feelings and options…the information is straight forward and every option is explored…this is a great starting point and may help to bring clarity and answers to what may seem to be an overwhelming and scary situation…click below to link to a free down load of this workbook that may help to clear the confusion and fear you are experiencing regarding your pregnancy…the step by step process outlined in the workbook will help you explore your various options and choices . . . Kinship Center is a private non profit child welfare agency dedicated to helping women explore their options in a caring and non judgemental atmosphere . . . call to speak to one of our experienced counselors… toll free 1888 466 6693…could your heart be open to adoption…view available adoptive parent photos and biographies at… http://www.pregnantwhatdoido.com/parent-profiles/ …..also be sure to download the pregnancy options workbook on the link below

 

Pregnancy Options Workbook

An Honest Discussion About Open Adoption

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– 6.5 year-old happy boy, in the zone. His awesome fishing skills come from ALL sides of his family.

One of the beliefs that we have here at Kinship Center is that no two Adoptions are ever the same. Every single adoption has its own set of unique challenges, joys, opportunities, crisis and triumphs. This is especially true in open adoptions where relationships are evolving over time and the losses experienced by both the birth mother and birth father are profound. It is often this core grief and loss that needs to be understood and acknowledged so relationship building can thrive. For an honest discussion between an adoptive mother and a birth mother (first mother) please check out the link below. What you will read is a wonderful story about two mothers who continue to work hard to do what is best for their son.

An Honest Discussion About Adoption Between My Son’s Birth Mother and Me

Lost and Found: A Story of Connection

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“I was 21 and became pregnant”, Toy Dupree, now age 66, shares that her journey to adoption began while she was in college, dating a fellow student. She states that neither she nor the baby’s father felt capable of supporting a child at that time. Toy says that the idea of adoption just felt right to her since she herself was adopted. What she wasn’t prepared for was the on-going grief and loss that she would feel. Toy reached out and joined a birthmothers support group and found a therapist that assisted her in dealing proactively with her grief and loss. What she experienced from others was more compassion than she could have imagined. This led her to want to search for her son so at least he would have the opportunity to know the full story and share a connection . . . if that is what he wanted.

To learn more about Toy’s unique adoption story please check out the link below.

Lost and Found: A Birthmother’s Secret Son

Unplanned Pregnancy

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Did you know that 1 out of 2 pregnancies in America are unplanned? Every day thousands of women find themselves in the crisis of an unintended pregnancy. The first thing that you should know is that you do have choices. If adoption is one of the options that you are considering for you and your baby, it’s important to find a therapist, counselor or social worker who can provide information and answer your questions in an honest and neutral way. In order to make the very best decision for both you and your baby it’s important that you research and discover what all of your options and choices are regarding your pregnancy. Coping with an unplanned pregnancy can feel overwhelming and scary . . . if you would like to speak with one of our licensed social workers please feel free to fill out the contact information or call.

The link below is to an article titled ‘Are You Pregnant and Thinking About Adoption’ from the Child Welfare Information Gateway. It will help you to explore what some of your choices and options are for your unplanned pregnancy.

Are You Pregnant and Thinking About Adoption

Pregnant What Do I Do?

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Are you facing an unplanned pregnancy? Not sure what to do? Do you know what all of your options are? Do you need to ask questions and find out what your choices are? This is a difficult time for you and our experienced professionals are here to help and support you. It is important that you find someone you can trust to help you through this time. Even though you didn’t plan on this, you do have options and choices! Is adoption something that could be the right choice for you and your baby? We want you to know that Kinship Center is here to help you with your pregnancy and will respect whatever decision you make. We’re here to help support you in making the best decision for both you and your baby.

Check out the link below to see a To Do List of the things you can start doing today to take good care of both you and your baby!

Pregnancy To Do List

One Pregnancy, Two Mothers

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Molly, age 40, and Valerie, age 24, have something VERY significant in common – both are Mothers to a beautiful little boy named Theo. Theo was born to Valerie who stated that she was not able or prepared to parent him at the time of his birth so she decided to make an adoption plan for Theo. Valerie and Molly originally met via facebook and have continued to stay connected through social media. We know social media is changing the way we connect and relate in profound ways and this is even more true for many adoption built families. Molly stated that they recently skyped with Valerie and her mother, Theo’s grandmother, and for her, they are extended family. For more on this story and how social media is changing the landscape in adoption, click the link below

How social media is changing adoption

Callie’s Choice

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Callie, a photojournalism student at the University of Iowa was struggling with an unplanned pregnancy. Her journey in making a decision to find the right family for both her and her child, was not an easy one. Here is an update on Callie’s story which we shared in an earlier post. Callie chose a family that was willing to create an open adoption and the result has been quite unexpected. Callie admits that her journey through the crisis of her own unplanned pregnancy was filled with heartache, loneliness and fear. Her strongest desire was to make the best decision for herself and her child. To get an update on this modern, blended family check out this NBC News video with Brian Williams.

Callie’s Choice

A Letter to My Son’s Birth Mother

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A Letter to My Son’s Birth Mother was written by an adoptive mother who had so much that she wanted to share with the ‘first mother’ of her beautiful son. Sadly, she believes she will never have the opportunity to meet her and share her thoughts and feelings in person since her son was adopted from an orphanage overseas. In the letter she shares that as her sons second birthday approached she couldn’t help thinking about his ‘first mother’ and what she would be experiencing. She states ‘On Saturday when we light the candles on his cake, we’ll light one for you, too, sending up a prayer as we blow it out and send the smoke sailing across the seas. I hope with everything in me that you hear it when the wind whispers past bringing my good wishes and a gratitude so huge that I feel like I could collapse under the weight of the joy it brings. I hope the wind carries away some of your grief and leaves you a bit of peace’.

To learn more about this story from the series Portrait of An Adoption hosted by the Huffington Post, check out the link below:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/11/merrin-donahue-a-letter_n_2447681.html

15 Years Old and Pregnant

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I Was Just A Regular 15 Year Old Girl written by Haley

I Was Just A Regular 15 Year Old Girl is one of 30 real life stories featured in the new series by the Huffington Post. Each of these real life stories is designed to give a voice to people with widely varying experiences, including birthparents, adoptees, foster parents, adoptive parents and others whose lives have been touched and changed through adoption.

The story describes the crisis and pain of being pregnant at 15 years of age. Since we know that each situation is unique and complex, this is one of the many adoption stories in Portrait of an Adoption series by the Huffington Post. We appreciate their willingness to share so many impactful and varying real life stories.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/09/15-and-pregnant-adoption-portrati_n_2440974.html?page=3#sthashN7U3JiAIdpuf