Monthly Archive for May, 2011

A Bittersweet Adoption Story…

I had the privilege of visiting with a family who two weeks ago had their dreams fulfilled when a birth mother and birth father placed their new born baby girl for adoption with them…  the birth parents had taken their baby home from the hospital and parented lovingly for several weeks prior to handing the baby to the adoptive family….I saw the look of love and heard the respect the adoptive family had for the birth parents as well as the deep sadness they felt for the birth parents loss…they spoke so lovingly of the sacrifice made by the birth family and said that Kinship Center classes and support group had helped prepare them for the journey and ironically so did the contact they had and still maintained with birth mothers they met with who decided to parent…the adoptive mom stated it was these relationships although painful to maintain as the birth mothers they met chose not to place with them that had taught them so much…I applaud this family for their efforts at trying to put themselves into the “shoes” of the birth mother and father and it was evident that their great joy of receiving a child was mixed with sadness and love and respect for their birth parents…. they seemed to grasp the enormity of the decision making, the life long impact , the anguish and the grief that will follow their birth parents regarding their decision to place and I saw that they truly shared their birth parents sadness as well as the hope that open  adoption might help to heal them….Adoption is a “bittersweet” experience… it springs from loss which is at its core ..a loss that is deep and profound ..when adoptive parents, however difficult it might be , strive to grasp their birth parents loss and grief they often report a deeper connection to their child and will have the ability to identify ,acknowledged and shoulder some of the loss that adopted children will experience as a normal consequence of being an adopted person… this experience reminded me of a poem written by a birth mother called ” The Legacy of a Child in an Open Adoption”… click below to link…

http://www.comeunity.com/adoption/adopt/open.html

Pregnant, Considering Open Adoption?

Are you looking for a family to adopt your baby who will be committed to an open adoption and who will want to develop an ongoing relationship with you and your family? Kinship Center can help you…we educate couples hoping to adopt to the benefits of a relationship built open adoption based on trust , committment, and  honest communication…Open adoption is not easy…We don’t hold it out as an easy way to do an adoption or that the adoption won’t be painful… Research shows that woman who choose to have a relationship with the adoptive family and their child have better resolution regarding their feelings about the adoption…click here for University of Texas study of birth mothers involved in open adoption…
http://www.utexas.edu/news/2002/10/07/nr_adoption

If you would like to explore the possibility of an open adoption as a solution to your unplanned pregnancy click to link to our pre-approved couples who hope to have an open adoption…  http://www.pregnantwhatdoido.com/parent-profiles or call us for help if you would like to explore open adoption  1-888-466-6693

Birth Mothers Gather to Celebrate….

On Thursday May 5th Kinship Center’s Tustin Adoption Staff  hosted a special  Mother’s Day gathering to celebrate the courage and loving spirit of the women who have placed their infants for adoption…most of  the 11 women who attended are involved in “relationship” built “open adoptions”…these women have ongoing relationships with their children and the adoptive families…This is one of two annual events that Kinship Center hosts to honor and remember birth mothers..the other event is held in December… Along  with decorations, good food and gifts birth mothers are given the opportunity to share their experiences and personal stories and to support and recognize each others courage, as well as acknowledge the challenges that go along with the decision to place a child  for adoption…There is usually a great deal of laughter as well as tears…These women will always hold a special place in our hearts and we will never forget them and will always be committed to providing them with a safe place to share and be recognized for their loving decision…I’ve posted a few pictures of this years celebration as well as a link to a beautiful article by birth mother Brenda Romanchik called “Honoring and Remembrance”. Enjoy!

http://www.openadoptioninsight.org/html/honor___remembrance.html

Unplanned Pregnancies:Some Real Stories…

Three woman  who were confronted with an unplanned pregnancy asked themselves the question…Pregnant what do I do? They each found answers at the Kinship Center a fully licensed adoption agency dedicated to helping woman facing an unplanned pregnancy look at their options…Each chose adoption and developed an ongoing relationship with their child and the adoptive family…Read their words and their heartfelt stories…Their individual journeys came with hard work , tears, and a strong commitment to building and  maintaining “real” relationships…click below to link to their “real stories”…

http://www.pregnantwhatdoido.com/real-stories/