Monthly Archive for February, 2010

Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother on Open Adoption

It has been almost three years since we met an incredible woman who changed our lives and our family’s lives forever. This special woman is our birth mother who courageously placed her newborn infant daughter into our arms and hearts almost three years ago. I’ll never forget that day as we gathered at the hospital to say the first big goodbye to each other- but what now has grown and become many hellos and goodbyes as we have developed a relationship with this incredible woman and her family. We gathered at the hospital and gave her time to be alone with the baby. We took photos together and had a big box of Kleenex handy courtesy of our Kinship Center social worker. I remember walking along side our birth mom as they wheeled her out of the hospital, my heart full of mixed emotions- my heart filled with gratitude and excitement for the baby my husband and I had longed for but full of pain and tears for this woman I had grown to love. We hugged and cried at the curb as we loaded the baby into our car. The birth mom got into her car. It was the longest ride home of my life. I couldn’t stop thinking of her and her family and their sadness. That night we called her to see how she was doing. We also sent pictures via email. Soon we were emailing every couple of days and about two weeks later we went to her house for a visit with her and her mom. That day at the hospital was not an ending or a final goodbye. It was the start of new relationships- ours with our beautiful baby but also with this incredible woman…